By: MARTIN R. INFANTE
President, SELF
December 2005
As with a number of other juvenile problems, family members are usually the last to know that a son, daughter, or sibling is hooked on drugs. Young people experimenting with prohibited substances will always attempt to hide such activities, and parents often find out about them only by accident, like when a youngster fails random drug testing at school and they get informed about it.
After 13 years of dealing with juvenile and chronic users, SELF has identified a number of telltale signs that can warn parents about the presence of a serious situation. The primary indicator of this is the loss of focus on or interest in studies or work. Other symptoms include lying and manipulative behavior, abnormal schedules, low frustration tolerance, impulsiveness, and withdrawal from family activities. In more advanced levels of drug dependence, the family can experience the loss of household valuables, unwholesome and troubled friends, and even violent behavior.
When a youngster exhibits a number of these symptoms, the parents must seek help early. Parents often hold back hoping they have made a wrong assessment, but their gut-feel is seldom wrong. A good way to start is finding out all they can about addiction. Even if their suspicion turns out to be unfounded, they would have gained valuable knowledge about this social menace.
The involvement of the entire family in this type of intervention is ideal. But much too often the parents themselves do not agree with each other about their child’s drug-taking condition. However, all it takes is for one parent or any adult member of the family to confront the problem and set the ball rolling.
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